Dearest second child,
One day, you will notice that your brother got weekly updates on his pregnancy, and you haven’t – obviously that’s because we love him more haha. Sorry dude, unfortunately life is way crazier with your big brother around, and a move/lack of internet didn’t do you any favours either (hence the two months since the last ‘bumpdate’). I promise that in the end, the benefits of being the second child will make up for mummy’s less frequent musings; you won’t be the guinea pig in the same way your brother was – I will have a better Idea (hopefully) of what I’m doing when you’re born, you already have a ton of cool clothes and toys, and most importantly, you have a big brother who is already completely in love with you and will watch out for you the rest of your life; so even though you don’t get to know what your pregnancy was like every week, I think you come out ahead kid.
Now, I realise that since last posting about the pregnancy, which was a shameful EIGHT weeks ago, we have found out the gender (BOY!), and a lot of other things have changed!
Baby is the size of a...Papaya
Maternity clothes? not really, I’m getting away with limited ‘maternity’ items, and mostly wearing Black Milk leggings, and sweaters that are still managing to contain the belly – by throwing a longer shirt under them, I think they’ll last the whole time.
Stretch marks? nope, I am curious whether the difference in weather will result in stretch marks this time – it was extremely hot and humid with Archer, now it’s cold and dry – just a hypothesis I’m hoping is proven wrong.
Sleep: 3rd trimester = sleepy. Who am I kidding, I’ve been sleepy the entire time. Archer’s in a big boy bed now, so he gets out and comes into our bed around 5:30 every morning. I go back to sleep while he watches a movie or plays.
Best moment this month: It was so long ago, but our scan was obviously a highlight. I was SO shocked to find out that it’s another boy, but once the surprise wore off (it still sort of is haha, I was SO sure it was a girl) I got so excited to have a boy! Brothers! Another sweet baby boy – my heart couldn’t be any more full. Archer becoming really into his “bee bee” has also been a lot of fun. He cuddles my belly multiple times a day, and asks me if the baby is awake, and loves feeling kicks.
Worst moment this month: transferring down here has been a major pain. Darwin pretty much told me to do it myself, and just washed their hands of me – very different from my experience with Archer. Then everyone I’ve called down here has pretty much said I’m too far along and they can’t fit me in. So I feel like a bit of a pre-natal nomad which is a bit stressful/frustrating. I finally got in to see an obstetric GP this week, and hopefully they can do my glucose and rhogam stuff. Not really stressed about the birth itself – I’ll just show up at the hospital in labor – they can’t turn me away, and that’s a bit like what happened with Archer. It will all be fine – I’ve let it go. Just so unimpressed with the birth options here – also trying to let that go.
Miss Anything? Beer, of course. Also being able to breath. Bit scared that I’m so short of breath and dizzy with 3 whole months of intense growth to come.
Movement: Oh! there’s another highlight! I can FINALLY feel movements! The scan confirmed an anterior placenta, but I’m finally getting movements, and in the last few days they’ve gotten even bigger and more frequent. Big stretchy movements, and I can feel the little parts move under my hand – I have no idea what they are, feet, hands, etc, but I love it.
Food cravings: nothing specific. (besides beer i guess)
Anything making you queasy or sick: the nausea is back a bit, but I think it’s because it goes along with the dizzy, which is frequent. nothing specific making me sick though.
Labor Signs: I have no idea what braxton hicks feel like, sometimes the belly feels really uncomfortable, but then I poke it and it doesn’t seem rock hard, which is how other people describe them, so I don’t know, doesn’t matter.
Belly Button in or out? starting to poke out!
Wedding rings on or off? on, although my diamond is loose again, and I haven’t had time/money to fix it, so I haven’t been able to wear it :( hoping to get it fixed before baby is born.
Symptoms: dizzy, tired, hungry (then no room to eat more than a small amount), short of breath. At least the back pain I had with Archer has held off this time!
Mood: The stress of the last few months is mostly gone now that the move is over. I have anxiety, so there are always things stressing me out, but it’s manageable now (finishing my semester before baby is born is top of the list currently). Mostly I’m feeling realign excited and impatient to meet the baby, or more accurately, for Archer to meet him – I daydream about that brother meeting moment constantly – setting the bar just a bit high haha.
Pregnancy dreams? They’re crazy vivid and bizarre, but never baby related.
Looking forward to: continuing to make/grow friendships here, my OB appointment (sort of), August visitors, and meeting mister, of course!
Next appointment: OB Thursday, then the hospital will finally see me at the end of August (I got scolded for not booking in with them earlier, because I’m too far along, and then they don’t make me an appointment for another 2 months – just makes NO sense)